Do you ever think … ?
- I wish I knew the key, the simple solution, the one thing
I can do now, to create love that lasts. - I want to have loving relationships that make me feel blessed
and happy and inspired to love freely?
Have you ever wondered … ? 
- Why do some people appear to have lives filled with love – loving family, loving friends, loving intimate partner, even loving colleagues and business associates?
- Why do others seem to have lives filled with troubles – family difficulties, disloyal friends, rejection and betrayal by intimate or business partners?
Yes, life happens and some of the most incredibly loving people have experienced rejection, disappointment, betrayal, even abuse. But there IS a difference between those who manage to create lives surrounded by love and those who seem to attract difficulties.
Of course, it certainly helps to come from a loving family. Love begets love. When we receive love from our earliest caretakers, when we are loved, accepted and appreciated for being our self, we are certainly in a better position to create loving relationships. So why is it that even with the most loving beginnings we can have difficulty throughout life?
All These Factors (And More) Affect The Way We Love
There are so many factors that increase or decrease our capacity to love and the type and quality of love we receive in return. How do we navigate through all the possible scenarios and influences to find a way to create love in our life?
- Factors surrounding our birth
- Early childhood care taking issues
- Family dynamics
- Education and learning in school, sports, creative activities, work, etc
- Emotional development
- Relationship building experiences
- Genetic traits
- Learned attitudes and beliefs
- Brain functioning
- Hormonal flow
- Spiritual and religious training
- Attitude, behavior and beliefs
- Expectations of self and others
Join the 30 Day Love Challenge
to focus on love every day for 30 days and
to finally overcome whatever stops your love
What IS The Key To Creating Love That Lasts?
There really is only ONE KEY to creating love that lasts.
Ask yourself: Am I Ready For Love?
It really is that simple. Are you READY for love? All the wisdom in the world will not help if you are not ready to do what it takes, feel what you need to feel, and behave in ways that attract and enhance love.
Join the 30 Day Love Challenge if you know you are ready for love.
How do you know when you’re ready for love?
When you are ready for love you
- know it because you start paying attention. You do everything you can to learn about love. You study about love. You read articles and books about love? You ask your friends and family and even strangers about love. You watch movies and TV shows, always attempting to understand what creates those ecstatic feelings and what helps the love to grow and last.
- take 100% responsibility, even if the other person’s attitude and behavior could use improvement. You only focus on what you can do better, understand better, and communicate better to create love.
- are ready for love, you make a firm and definite decision to love. When circumstances don’t go the way you prefer, you step back, evaluate, and search for ways to love even more.
- have a strong and positive belief that it is possible – for you and for others. Your belief leads you to think more lovingly and to take actions that will lead to greater love.
- observe your own and others’ behaviors, you ask questions and listen to the responses, you study above love and you are willing to adjust and learn new ways of being
- make a commitment to continual self-improvement and understanding of others
- go about your daily business, pursue your interests, focus on achieving your goals and follow your dreams.
When you are ready for love, love finds you easily and effortlessly.
If you are ready for love and willing to take one month, 30 days, to totally focus on love,
I believe Where There Is Love There IS A Way – find YOUR way.
JOIN THE 30 DAY LOVE CHALLENGE
In the meantime….
LEARN HOW TO HEAL THROUGH LOVE
GO DEEPER INTO HEALING THROUGH LOVE
Warmly,
Dr. Erica Goodstone
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I think, It is a decision that you make you fall in love and decide this’s it. That you will be love and just be loving even when you’re arguing like mad………………………
Jenifer,
It IS a decision and often just making that decision helps you to get through the difficult times.
Sometimes, however, the other person just won’t cooperate and there may come a time when your decision changes
in favor of honoring your own needs and values. Love is a beautiful experience and often brings disappointment and pain.
The goal is to love and fully and we can and let the relationship reveal itself over time.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Thanks for sharing so significative article with us. I agree with your idea competely.I am looking forward to another great article from you.
Hello Dr Erica, What a lovely post, I think we all want to love and be loved but it does take work HUH?
Thanks for sharing.
Chery :))
Chery,
You are so right. Most of us do want long lasting love, but we tend to want to receive that love and don’t mind giving when it is easy. But when it gets difficult, when we have to delay gratification or give up something else that we like, we are often ready to quickly bail out of love.
Love requires practice, skill and intention.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Good post and good question
After 43 years of marriage I have no idea what makes love last.
I think it is a decision that you make once you fall in love and decide this s it! That you will be love and just be loving even when you’re arguing like mad
We can fight but it is never going to be the that’s it you’re out. Our love surpasses anything!
Interesting post Thanks
Mary
Mary,
When you both feel that “this is it,” that you plan to stay together no matter what, then love can blossom. But it is not necessarily the romantic, fairy tale type of love. Sometimes we feel quite angry, annoyed and all sorts of other emotions and attitudes toward our partner. But knowing that we are not leaving helps both of us to feel loved and secure. That alone is very special in this uncertain and often dangerous world.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Erica,
what a great post .
It is true many people have first to overcome
habits and paradigms and most important they
have to know and love themselves. It often needs
really guidence and support to get ready for real
love ,which you provide here.
May you help many to find love
Thank you
Erika
Erika,
Thanks for the very sweet comment. I do want to help people to avoid those pitfalls and understand what it really takes to love and be loved. And it is not always easy and romantic. Often we have to be strong within our self, not expecting so much to come from the other person.
Wamrly,
Dr. Erica
Wonderful article Erica,
Of course, it does help to come from a loving family. Both my family and that of my husband were very supportive and loving.
We just celebrated our 20th Wedding Anniversary recently.
Our relationship is now happy and fulfilling for us both but it wasn’t always so. It took lots of communication, love, acceptance and forgiveness.
” Love begets love. When we receive love from our earliest caretakers, when we are loved, accepted and appreciated for being our self, we are certainly in a better position to create loving relationships.” So true. Now with our grandchildren we give that love and care to them. So they can go on and have healthy happy relationships.
Kathryn,
Lovely. Yes, it helps to have loving examples to follow and to feel loved and accepted as a child. But most of us can learn to overcome past deficits through a living love relationship as an adult. But it takes work – communication, time, caring, forgiveness and developing a strong sense of trust and caring beyond your own self.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hey Erica, love that lasts is something we all want yet too few actually achieve. Because it’s nothing static, a happy marriage requires “work”… Great to see how you offer counsel so many people need. Also first time I saw one of your videos and I loved it!!
Thanks for stopping by Andrea. What I have been realizing lately is that most people want a quick fix for any problems and a get rich quick scheme for making money. And the world just does not work that way. Building a solid business that continues to grow and expand and provide value for others is a long term work in progress. There is not way to just take some formula and make it happen so that you can just relax on vacation. There is real hard ongoing work involved – that not every marketer or business person talks about. Relationships work in a similar way. We feel a rush of wonderful emotions at the start and many of us expect that to continue forever without our having to adjust and negotiate and deal with problems and unexpected hurts and disappointments and even betrayals. To keep a relationship healthy, happy and fulfilling for both people takes ongoing attention, care, communication, love, acceptance and forgiveness.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Erica, Great post and lots of good advice. I had that kind of love but still not ready to try again since he passed away. I do remember that feeling, like nothing else.
Thank you for letting me remember such a special time in my life.
Monna,
Thanks. Just keep holding onto all those beautiful memories. If the time is right and you are feeling ready, love appears. We do not have to seek love. We do not have to go looking for love. When the time is right and we are ready, love finds us.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica