I read a great article describing 9 important skills that highly successful people have used to develop successful relationships and create wealth. As I often do, I have translated these valuable life skills into love making, love connecting, and love enhancing skills.
- Introduce Two High Connectors
Do you know, among your close circle of friends or outer circle of influence, a few outgoing, high people connectors? Instead of asking either of them to help you find someone new to date, to connect you with a potential business partner, or to invest in your project, why not find a way to bring these two high producers together? Give first to those who might later be able to give back to you. You go first.
- Introduce Two People With a Specific Goal in Mind
Have you ever connected two other people who might have a business relationship, a friendship or just an additional acquaintance? Have you done that frequently? The more often you connect other people, the more likely you are to find a new person to date, receive support for your current project or business, or merely develop a large group of people that know, like and trust you – not bad for building a business.
- Create a Dinner of Interesting People
Are you a great cook or a fabulous host? Then invite a few strategic people to your home for an afternoon or evening of scintillating conversation and potential for valuable connections. Not a great cook? Then arrange for a casual meeting at a local mid-priced pub or restaurant. Become the connector and watch your own connections expand, maybe even leading to an unexpected introduction to the love or your life or the business partner you always wanted but didn’t know how to find.
- Follow up
Okay. You created an unforgettable home cooked meal and the conversation was wonderful. Everyone left smiling and appreciative. Did you followup afterwards? Did you call each person and ask how they are doing and whether they connected with someone special at the dinner? Don’t underestimate the value of following up, keeping you in the minds of all those who attended your event.
- Re-Establish Contact
So now a few weeks have gone by. Your dinner event is a distant albeit pleasant memory. But you haven’t seen or heard from any of your guests since then. Next step? Contact each of your guests again via telephone, email, text, skype, social media sites. Keep those warm and fuzzy connections alive.
- Show Up
If you’re not the party creator type nor a really high level connector, then this skill is even more important for you. Show up when you are invited to a party or event sponsored by someone else, especially if that someone is a high connector. Be very visible and present at the event. If it is just a virtual event, make sure to raise your hand to ask a question, post a complimentary comment that shows you have learned or gained something valuable. Show up and “the one” might be there just waiting to meet YOU.
- Produce something of value
Do you have something valuable to share with others at an event? Do you have some free or discounted tickets, special opportunities for which you are the go-between, an opportunity to help someone be featured in an article or book series? Do you have something valuable to contribute to a conversation about relationships, healing, manifesting money or something else that might be real important to others? Be a valuable resource. Help others to view you as someone they NEED to get to know. Be of service to others.
- Time
Are you willing to spend time doing difficult, time consuming, frustrating and even thankless menial tasks? Do you believe that you should only have to go to certain events, talk with only certain types of people, or work at only high level tasks for which you are applauded and rewarded? Billionaires do not think like that as they are working themselves up the financial ladder. Billionaires work hard, at every level of the process, until they have put all the pieces into play – and even then they often continue to work hard. We all have the same number of hours, minutes and seconds in a single day. But how we choose to utilized those segments of time can make all the difference.
So, are you ready to become a super love connector or a haphazard, inconsistent disconnector?
Are you ready to find the love or build the business of your dreams but something seems to hold you back?
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Warmly,
Dr. Erica
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Dr. Erica Goodstone DrErica@DrEricaWellness.com |
Nile, |
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You know, one thing I have not done is put together a dinner with interesting people. I never thought of it… so you gave me a good idea. (yay) I think I may have to do that and maybe have one every month. I already have some people in mind. While it may not be for love, it would be for friendship. 🙂 |
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Steve, |
Steve-Personal Success Factors personal-success-factors.comx sborgmanad@gmail.com |
Erica, this is such profound advice for those of us both in business and in life. It’s interesting: I do believe love and wealth are closely connected. Many of the most successful people are also the best at relating to others. And while there are a minority of wealthy people who are not very caring, the majority of those I have met are extremely genuine and selfless people. Growing in love is growing in wealth.
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Mandy, Warmly, Dr. Erica |
Mandy Swift fitnessmarketingsos.comx mandyswiftonline@gmail.com |
Hi Erica, I am afraid I fall badly short on ‘follow-ups’, which, as you say are so easy to do – all they require is a little time. Quite often I find myself thinking ‘whatever happened to so-and-so?’ A timely reminder I feel! Thank you 🙂 |
Dr. Erica Goodstone DrErica@DrEricaWellness.com |
Rachel, When we have the right frame of reference and way of thinking about it, then it becomes so much easier to just do it and follow up. And that is essential for building any type of ongoing relationship, in business and in friendship and in love. Dr. Erica |
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Willena, Dr. Erica |
Rachel Lavern fearfully-n-wonderfullymade.com/blogx rachel.lavern@gmail.com |
I like how you applied the tips to love relationships. I am reading 7 Networking Laws and #3 is “The fit ones will get rich”. People who have a sincere interest in other people and make connections as a “connector” are the ones who are the fit ones. You can only be a connector and further your relationship, if you get to know the people who you meet. And that means getting over your fear of follow-up and getting into a further conversation. |
Willena Flewelling wflewelling.comx willena.flewelling@gmail.com |
This is the kind of balanced counsel I wish I’d had when I was a shy teenager and young widow. Shyness kept me from connecting with many others, especially men. And, reserved as I was, anything I did do FELT like forwardness. But there is a balance between shy and forward. Offer value to others… be friendly… find ways of helping and encouraging others… and it will open the way to something deeper. I am still shy and reserved in real life. And the answer is still the same, for relationship building, and for building a network marketing business. Thank you for the insights. 🙂 Willena Flewelling |
Dr. Erica Goodstone DrErica@DrEricaWellness.com |
Dave and Dawn, You have already created a huge virtual high connector party with TSA – Tribe Syndication Association. And it really works. Many strong connections, joint ventures and affiliate partnerships have developed. Crating an in-person connecting event is also powerful. Thanks for sharing. Warmly, Dr. Erica |
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Julieanne, I am attending a Virtual Halloween costume party. I decided to go as Mystical Queen Erica, able to empower others to instantly feel loved and loving with the touch of my golden, diamond studded healing wand. Happy Halloween, Dr. Erica |
Dave and Dawn Cook daveanddawncook.comx info@daveanddawncook.com |
Hi Dr. Erica, Creating a dinner to connect people is a wonderful idea. I can see inviting folks just with the objective of connecting them with some new people. You are correct on the importance of following up too since it also helps you solidify your relationship with each person. If you can help the new relationship you have helped to create blossom than that is all good as well. It’s all about giving value and connecting high connectors together ranks high on the list of giving great value. Thanks for sharing this great post! (Dave) and Dawn |
Julieanne van Zyl internetnetworkmarketing-training.com/homebusinessx julieanne.vanzyl@gmail.com |
Hi Dr Erica, I do half those things on your list, and the other half, I hardly ever get around to doing! I like the way you applied the original list in a different way. Happy Halloween Dr Erica, do you go out and celebrate? Or, did you invite some interesting people over to your home to celebrate? Bye for now, Julieanne |
Dr. Goodstone drerica@drericawellness.com |
Marcus, Dr. Erica |
Marcus T Cox socialmathandyou.comx marcuscox@socialmathandyou.com |
That is a good question. I bet everyone would be quick to they are a connector, but your list of things to do might make them question their own answer. For what I do now I have not had the chance yet to work with a group of people. So I honestly do not know yet. You will be the first person I let know when I get that first chance. Thank for the info and insight, as always TTYL |
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I have to say i’d not thought of “connectors” this way! Thanks for an inspiring read with some interesting ideas.
Hi Barb,
Life is so much better when our goal and intention is to reach out and help others, rather than solely focusing on what we can get and receive.
Hi Erica,
relationship problems are very common these days. Most of the times ego issues and lack of communication cause big issues in a relationship. It is goods to find how to connect with your love.
Glad you have shared this!
Gaurav,
You are so right. Darn those ego issues. Causes you to block the loving feelings and not let yourself be vulnerable.