Have you ever wondered why some men succeed in business and thrive in long term relationships and marriages while other men seem to struggle financially, emotionally and even physically throughout their lives? 
Recently, in the prestigious Society for Sex Therapy and Research list serve, I was introduced to the results of an ongoing, longitudinal study. These findigs provide some not so surprising answers to the question of what physiological and psychological traits determine a man’s success in his relationships and his career.
The Grant Study
This amazing one of a kind study called the Grant Study, began in 1938, 76 years ago, and continues today….
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Dr. Erica Goodstone
Solo Practitioner
Dr. Erica Goodstone is a Spiritual Relationship Healing Expert and Healing Through Love Mentor helping men and women heal their bodies and their relationships through love. Having presented her comprehensive relationship healing programs throughout the U.S. and Canada over several decades, she has helped literally 1000's of men and women to heal through learning how to love. Dr. Erica believes "Where There is Love There IS a Way". When you love, accept, listen and pay attention to your body, trust your own sense of what you truly desire, and strive to understand, appreciate and really know the other people in your life, anything and everything is possible.
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The “Grant Study” presents interesting findings especially when looking at how true the facts presents. There are cases where a man will not want to admit to the problems and so does not want to seek for help. In this case it becomes very difficult for the marriage to succeed. Thank you for sharing the study it helped to gain more understanding.
Siphosith,
It is not only that a particular marriage does not last. The man who does not seek help to overcome a difficult childhood is more likely to suffer from illness and emotional upsets later in life. There are so many benefits to reaching out for counseling when we have problems in relationships, in business, in health or in any aspect of life.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Dr. Erica
This is a very interesting
and good article,like always .
I think It is true men will be more successful
if they are in a loving relationship.
In my opinion it depends on the the kind of love.
I saw parents loving children ,but did restrict them
by too much love and men and women as well.
Some tie the partner with their love ,it need to be unconditional
love .I learned behind every great man is a woman.
Love needs to support and set free .
Thank you
Erika,
I like your realization that we need to receive love and also the freedom to explore so that we are not stifled from exploring the world in our own way.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Erica, I always enjoy reading your articles. It is both a challenge and a awesome thing; love, when you find the right one and will do almost anything to nurture and let it grow into a deep felt experience. It’s a feeling like no other.
Monna,
Not everyone has had a totally loving childhood but even then, with a loving partner who matches you in some way and is dedicated to building a good relationship, childhood issues can be surpassed and overcome. Love is truly a healer. The Heartmath Institute has revealed that the heart with its electrical and magnetic resonance is more powerful than the brain.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
All you need is love — but yes indeed, real love is a whole lot more all-encompassing than many people realize. A lifetime commitment calls for taking the time beforehand to get to know one another, and find out what their values are, and discuss how they will handle differences. AND it calls for honesty and clear-sightedness in determining whether differences can be lived with.
Ian and I have been happily married for 32 years, and have raised 7 children. I think our biggest strength has been the willingness to talk things through, and to put the best construction on things the other person says or does.
Willena,
You are a true role model for how to create a loving relationship that lasts and continues the loving feelings. Life has not been easy for you. Some people would become bitter or victim-like. But you face life, embrace what is good and share openly with your family and friends. I feel so fortunate to have met you through our different group contacts.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
I agree that the results of the Grant Study aren’t too surprising but it’s good to have some solid evidence like this.
Do you think men are more willing to admit they have problems and accept professional help these days?
Sue,
When the problem feels big enough, men or women will eventually seek help in the form of counseling. But many people only stay for a short time and stop the sessions as soon as they feel a little better, often before the new insights are integrated into lasting changes. I think men are more willing to come to counseling now than in years past.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
I am so glad that I clicked on the link, this time. I think that, the last time I visited your blog, I was confused about where the article actually was…and so I perused your site and then left.
Today, when I got stumped, I just sat for a minute and then it finally hit me: CLICK THE LINK, Christi!! LOL!
Sorry about that. I was so lost for a moment, there!
Once I read the article, I came back here…and I have to say…it’s interesting how much of an effect childhood and good relationships have on the human psyche. The study was in depth and revealing. I think I know some men who fit both categories, and the study certainly seems to bear witness to the lives that they live.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us! Great article, lady!
Christi,
Thanks for persisting this time. That’s funny how difficult it can seem when we arrive at a new blog. Each site has a different style and it can be confusing the first time you visit.
So glad you persisted. Yes, in working with clients over the years I have certainly seen the effect of early childhood love and early childhood deprivation and/or abuse. We can overcome a lot of our background but only with just the right mixture of internal work and external assistance.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Dr. Erica,
I went on to read the findings and it was very interesting to see the “Grant Study” findings.
No it is not surprising that when one seeks out therapy, one can change their lives around. Not surprising to me because I have gone through it myself. If I had not, I wouldn’t be here right now.
Especially when it comes to love. In the past, I chose those that would only hurt me until I realized I needed to change. Through therapy I did. From my confidence levels to working on the subconscious mind. It was only then that I was able to choose the right partner in life that gave me love that I needed.
Thanks for this great share!
-Donna
Donna,
You are a wonderful example of someone who finally turned her life around by facing your issues head-on and then choosing something better for your life. Many people are so afraid of facing their issues, they skirt around it, do all sorts of temporary, quick fix types of things and continue to choose the same types of partners, friends and associates. So glad you were willing to do what it takes and now look how much you have to offer others.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Well written and encouraging study Dr. Erica. There will always be exceptions to the rule but think it’s very helpful to have this kind of information; certainly gives one something to aspire to. Thanks or the inspiration!
Marquita,
That is why it is so important for 2 people who are dating to ask questions and find out as much as possible about each others’ backgrounds, attitudes and beliefs. Often, when the hormones are flowing, we tend to overlook warning signs that we may be in for some difficulties if the relationship progresses. On the other hand, with enough love sometimes those difficulties can be alleviated and even prevented.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica