Nile,
That’s a great idea to put together a dinner with interesting people. And – when you are not searching for love, who knows what unexpected additional gifts will be presented.

You know, one thing I have not done is put together a dinner with interesting people. I never thought of it… so you gave me a good idea. (yay) I think I may have to do that and maybe have one every month. I already have some people in mind. While it may not be for love, it would be for friendship. 🙂

Steve,
I have been paying more attention and I am starting to discern the difference. I can almost predict who will be successful and who will not based upon their attitude. Highly successful and wealthy people tend to give freely, not just because they have more time or money, but because that was their style which led to the wealth. People who are struggling tend to measure everything they do – how much money will this earn me, how much time will I have to spend, etc. Instead of freely giving, freely working hard, they are often too concerned with the outcome and too attached, and then they give up too soon.Warmly,Dr. Erica

Erica, this is such profound advice for those of us both in business and in life. It’s interesting: I do believe love and wealth are closely connected. Many of the most successful people are also the best at relating to others. And while there are a minority of wealthy people who are not very caring, the majority of those I have met are extremely genuine and selfless people. Growing in love is growing in wealth.

Mandy,
I have to admit, I have not been good at following up. It does feel good when I finally reach out and the other person is happy to hear from me. That is an important part of building a relationship.

Warmly,

Dr. Erica

Rachel,

When we have the right frame of reference and way of thinking about it, then it becomes so much easier to just do it and follow up. And that is essential for building any type of ongoing relationship, in business and in friendship and in love.

Dr. Erica

Willena,
I wish I’d had that counsel early in life also. When I was pledging for a high school sorority I was so shy and not reaching out the way they expected. Now I understand how important it is and I am often still very reserved. We are not all naturally outgoing and comfortable that way. Some of us are naturally more introverted and self-reflective – and there’s nothing wrong with that except that connecting works better for building a big business.

Dr. Erica

I like how you applied the tips to love relationships. I am reading 7 Networking Laws and #3 is “The fit ones will get rich”. People who have a sincere interest in other people and make connections as a “connector” are the ones who are the fit ones. You can only be a connector and further your relationship, if you get to know the people who you meet. And that means getting over your fear of follow-up and getting into a further conversation.

This is the kind of balanced counsel I wish I’d had when I was a shy teenager and young widow. Shyness kept me from connecting with many others, especially men. And, reserved as I was, anything I did do FELT like forwardness. But there is a balance between shy and forward. Offer value to others… be friendly… find ways of helping and encouraging others… and it will open the way to something deeper.

I am still shy and reserved in real life. And the answer is still the same, for relationship building, and for building a network marketing business.

Thank you for the insights. 🙂

Willena Flewelling

Dave and Dawn,

You have already created a huge virtual high connector party with TSA – Tribe Syndication Association. And it really works. Many strong connections, joint ventures and affiliate partnerships have developed. Crating an in-person connecting event is also powerful. Thanks for sharing.

Warmly,

Dr. Erica

Julieanne,

I am attending a Virtual Halloween costume party. I decided to go as Mystical Queen Erica, able to empower others to instantly feel loved and loving with the touch of my golden, diamond studded healing wand.

Happy Halloween,

Dr. Erica

Hi Dr. Erica,
I want to be a better connector and you sure have given me the tips to do so. As you know, I haven’t been out looking for a love connection since I’ve been happily married for 22 years now, but I certainly see how being a good connector can be a huge help for our businesses and social environment.

Creating a dinner to connect people is a wonderful idea. I can see inviting folks just with the objective of connecting them with some new people. You are correct on the importance of following up too since it also helps you solidify your relationship with each person. If you can help the new relationship you have helped to create blossom than that is all good as well.

It’s all about giving value and connecting high connectors together ranks high on the list of giving great value.

Thanks for sharing this great post!

(Dave) and Dawn

Hi Dr Erica, I do half those things on your list, and the other half, I hardly ever get around to doing! I like the way you applied the original list in a different way.

Happy Halloween Dr Erica, do you go out and celebrate? Or, did you invite some interesting people over to your home to celebrate?

Bye for now, Julieanne

Marcus,
I know I fall short of several items in the high connector category. I often feel reluctant or get too busy with other activities and obligations and projects to follow up and to keep in contact. I have also chosen to attend certain events and passed up others that perhaps would have connected me with “the one.” So it was eye opening to read that highly successful people do all that and more.

Dr. Erica

That is a good question. I bet everyone would be quick to they are a connector, but your list of things to do might make them question their own answer. For what I do now I have not had the chance yet to work with a group of people. So I honestly do not know yet. You will be the first person I let know when I get that first chance. Thank for the info and insight, as always TTYL